How to Use Sex Toys

Start on the lowest setting and work up slowly as you get comfortable. Try a few different patterns to see what you like, add a little water-based lube to cut down on friction, and take your time. There's no schedule and no wrong pace.

Bullet and mini vibrators are a common place to start. They're small, simple to use, and easy to handle. Classic vibrators are another straightforward option if you want something a little more substantial. Look for body-safe materials like silicone, ABS plastic, or glass.

Start with a simple design, then look for the features that matter to you, like multiple settings, a quiet motor, or a discreet size. Our beginner guides above walk through the main types.

Yes, lube makes most toys more comfortable. Water-based lube works with every toy material and cleans up easily. Silicone-based lube lasts longer, but don't use it with silicone toys because it can damage the material.

Talk first about what you both want and where the boundaries are. Toys made for couples are an easy start, and a small vibrator can be used during foreplay or sex for extra sensation. Keep checking in with each other as you go.

Wash it before and after each use with warm water and mild soap, or a toy cleaner, then rinse and let it dry completely before you put it away. If the toy isn't waterproof, wipe it with a damp cloth instead of putting it under water.