Questions people ask
How do I use a sex toy for the first time?
Start on the lowest setting and work up slowly as you get comfortable. Try a few different patterns to see what you like, add a little water-based lube to cut down on friction, and take your time. There's no schedule and no wrong pace.
What kind of toy is good for a beginner?
Bullet and mini vibrators are a common place to start. They're small, simple to use, and easy to handle. Classic vibrators are another straightforward option if you want something a little more substantial. Look for body-safe materials like silicone, ABS plastic, or glass.
How do I choose a vibrator?
Start with a simple design, then look for the features that matter to you, like multiple settings, a quiet motor, or a discreet size. Our beginner guides above walk through the main types.
Should I use lube with a sex toy?
Yes, lube makes most toys more comfortable. Water-based lube works with every toy material and cleans up easily. Silicone-based lube lasts longer, but don't use it with silicone toys because it can damage the material.
How do I use a sex toy with a partner?
Talk first about what you both want and where the boundaries are. Toys made for couples are an easy start, and a small vibrator can be used during foreplay or sex for extra sensation. Keep checking in with each other as you go.
How do I clean a sex toy after using it?
Wash it before and after each use with warm water and mild soap, or a toy cleaner, then rinse and let it dry completely before you put it away. If the toy isn't waterproof, wipe it with a damp cloth instead of putting it under water.
Nobody hands you a real manual for this part. The box has one, technically, folded to the size of a postage stamp and printed in a font designed for ants. So here's the version that helps. This page gathers our guides on how to use sex toys, from choosing a first vibrator to figuring out what a dildo is actually for once it's out of the packaging, along with the beginner-friendly toys those guides keep coming back to: small bullets, finger vibrators and classic shapes with no learning curve. Read first and shop second, or skip straight to the toys. Nobody's keeping score.