I Want More! 12 Tips for Great Sex

I believe that regularly occurring and frequent sex will produce certain emotional and physical health benefits.

It has long been established that there are numerous health benefits related to sexual activity, an awareness that has been recorded in our culture for centuries in the form of such old wives’ tales as "use it or lose it." Just as if you don't use your household appliances regularly, they become rusty and break down.

Now you can tell your lover, spouse, significant other, or even yourself what you've hoped to hear for years! Not only is sex fun and exciting - it's healthy. "Sexercise" your body and see the benefits. Do it alone or with someone, but do it. Some of the same physical benefits you seek by working out at the gym are literally right at your fingertips.

Are you tired of waiting in line to use the barbells? Is the treadmill tearing up your kneecaps? Does that personal trainer show no mercy - no pain, no gain? Tone those muscles, improve your health, and give your body a boost with Dr. Ava's Sexercise Tips:

Tip 1:Change sexual positions to stimulate different muscles.

Tip 2: Exercise the muscles in your tongue by using it to write the alphabet or love letters on your lover's body.

Tip 3: Give your lover a sensuous massage to stimulate their skin, improve circulation, and help remove toxins. By enjoying ourselves sexually we can actually improve our bodies both physically and mentally. Did you know that during sex, the flow of blood throughout the body not only improves circulation but also eliminates headaches? The improved flow of blood along the spinal column to the brain that results from an orgasm may just be the right thing to get rid of that migraine. No more cliché excuses ladies! Men, the next time your partner says, "I've got a headache," you can say, "Good, let's make love and get rid of it." Even that heavy breathing with someone you love is healthy as you regulate and exercise your respiratory organs.

If you think you're overweight and need to lose a few pounds, there's no more fun way to do it than with increased sexual activity. It won't counteract the effects of overeating, but it does burn up calories and can also help turn fat into muscle more quickly than other forms of exercise; plus, working on that muscle tone is fun while having sex. The natural tensing of your muscles while engaging in sex can work on the shoulders, neck, biceps, thighs, abs, stomach, and buttocks. The relaxation that follows helps work as a natural sedative.

Tip 4: Pump up your love muscles and the world will look a whole lot brighter.

Men, your PC muscle (love muscle) is just under the penis. It's the same muscle that you use to stop the flow of urine. Squeeze it to prolong lovemaking and control orgasm.

Tip 5: Ladies, your love muscle is located between the anus and the vagina. Exercise your PC muscle to squeeze your lover's penis and increase erotic sensations.

Having trouble sleeping? Well, take Dr. Ava's advice. There is no better cure for insomnia than good sex. You feel so relaxed that it naturally leads you into a deep sleep - and guys, wrap your arms around your special someone. Help cuddle them off to dreamland. The opposite is also true, ladies. Imagine the magic of waking up in the morning by lovemaking at dawn. It gets both your hearts and minds racing and it's healthier than caffeine anytime.

The physical and emotional aspects of sex can, and do work together in improving self-esteem and adding to a sense of well-being. The unique sense of intimate connection with your lover cannot be duplicated by any other activity.

Believe it or not, sex can also work as a laxative, toning and controlling the lower abdominal muscles. The muscle relaxant post-orgasmic state has so many benefits that it can solve a host of problems, even constipation.

Tip 6: Stressed? What better cure than sex? If you're feeling tense, set aside some quiet time and shut out the deadlines and pressures, if only for a "quickie."

You will find that many of the symptoms of stress will disappear with a little loving. Not only will you feel a lot looser, you'll breathe better, and some of those other problems relating to stress - poor judgment, short temper, or a sense of helplessness, will begin to fade into oblivion.

Feeling good sexually is a natural high that helps make all those little problems of the day seem a little less important. So, the next time you need a little relief and there is no one else around, masturbation is as good an activity as people once considered it was bad. If you find yourself alone and without a partner, so what! We all occasionally find ourselves alone with time on our hands (pun intended). While my "sexercise prescriptions are a lot of fun for couples, use your most erotic organ (your brain) and all the same physical benefits I've mentioned can be yours alone.

Tip 7: Women have a multi-orgasmic capacity that may remain untapped without a little help from a "friend". Explore that elusive G-spot area and you might discover a longer, deeper, more powerful orgasm then you ever imagined. Also, an orgasm a day will keep menstrual cramps away by providing a natural decongestion, resulting in less of the pain that can be so...well, irritating.

Tip 8: Experiment when that live partner isn't around. This is the time to let your fantasies run rampant; use sex toys, erotic audio, or videos to stimulate your senses and heighten your arousal.

Since sexual fulfillment also involves your brain, it can improve your concentration and contribute greatly to your powers of imagination and creativity. If your work is getting you down, close your eyes and think about that ideal lover. I assure you, when you finish fantasizing, your mind and body will be ready to tackle the challenge that moments before seemed impossible.

Tip 9: Ladies, do you secretly fantasize about your special someone watching you do a striptease? Tell him. Men, do you have a fantasy where your girl friend or wife dominates you? Tell her! Are you curious about anal sex? Buy a butt plug and experiment. There is absolutely nothing too wild or unusual in sex, as long as it's between two consensual adults. Share your innermost thoughts and watch your relationship flourish.

Tip 10: Use the power of suggestion and role-playing to make your fantasies come true. If you trust each other implicitly, and love your partner with abandon, nothing will embolden your relationships more than the sharing of fantasies. What safer way for you single people to begin to share sexual intimacy than watching each other masturbate or helping each other to reach an orgasm without intercourse.

Tip 11: Learn to share your bodies without embarrassment and the trust that you develop for each other will be a solid foundation upon which to build a future together. The pleasure that comes from watching the love of your life reach his or her pinnacle of sexual satisfaction can be the most beautiful sight in the world.

Tip 12: The ultimate "sexercise" to practice with your lover may be Tantric sex. A sacred kind of love, Tantric sex helps you concentrate on both the healing and energizing effects of harmonious breathing. While making love in the lotus position, you breathe out as your lover breathes in, hypnotically relaxing, it aids in the exchange of yin and yang (male and female energy). If there is a better way of getting in touch with your masculine and feminine selves, I'd like to hear about it!

Tantric exercises share a deeper ability to communicate. It is the purest way of sharing the best prescription for health - SEX! One of the oldest Tantric exercises which combine a physical, mental, and spiritual way of life is the Venus Butterfly Technique which was first practiced in India around 3000 B.C. By simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and tapping on the G-Spot (located approximately two inches inside, on the upper wall of the vagina, between the opening and the cervix), it is possible for the woman to reach both an internal orgasm and an external one which may result in multiple orgasms.

There has been an enormous amount of psychological research focusing on the relationship between sexuality and mental health. Recent medical studies by the American Heart Association have confirmed the physical benefits of an active sex life. The American Association of Urologists and significant medical school studies at the Universities of California and Indiana, just to name two, has documented studies about the health aspects of sexual activity. The Touch Institute in Florida has evidence that touch is the most powerful form of communication and maintenance of good health, physically and emotionally.

The emotional fulfillment that comes from a healthy sex life results in the relaxation of your muscles and your brain. Sex is good for your heart and lungs. Orgasms can alleviate certain headaches, the pain of menstrual cramps, act as a laxative, and help to burn calories, keep muscles toned, and organs healthy. It can have the effect of an anti-depressant, a mild sedative. Better sex can stimulate creativity, improve concentration, and reduce stress. And...most importantly, it feels good!

Go for the gold - but always safely. Don't jeopardize all the truly wonderful benefits of an active sex life by being careless and irresponsible.

Dr. Ava Cadell, Sexologist, Media Therapist, Author, Speaker and Founder of www.LoveologyUniversity.com the College of Sensual Knowledge.