Tantra combines body, mind and spirit, causing your whole being to expand through awareness of your senses, feelings and energy.In Tantra there is no duality.Usually you think of good vs. bad, male vs. female, dark vs. light.You have been taught to perceive duality all about you, but in Tantra you come to know that all these opposites are contained in the same universal consciousness and that means everything you experience, do, and feel even pleasure and pain are designed to bring you closer to your own divinity.
Tantra invokes the question: How much can you expand in order to embrace it all?This expansion happens as you eliminate toxins and open yourself to more and more pleasure.That’s where the sex part comes in.Tantra uses the body as the learning vehicle, employing sexual energy to fuel the transformation.
Why?It’s easy and takes very little time to make a difference in your life.Any one of many techniques can bring you a sense of calm and peace in your every day with minimum effort.Plus while practicing you focus on opening to pleasure.How bad could that be?
While you may be attracted to Tantra believing it will spice up your sex life, there are many other concrete reasons to turn to this form of practice based on its incredible benefits.Great sex may be accomplished, but there is much more. It is important to note that the sexual union depicted in Tantric paintings and carved onto temple walls is symbolic of what can be achieved by joining feminine and masculine energy mostly inside yourself.
Sorry to tell you Tantra is not necessarily about having sex.It involves many breathing practices that include squeezing the anal sphincter muscles, contracting the PC (sex) muscles, mantra (making sound) and yantra (looking at geometric images).In addition, modern Western Tantra practices include emotional clearing, Latihan (inner guidance practice), dance and celebratory rituals.Yet it is not just a big party.It involves being with a teacher or teachers, lots of study, and group process work.There is method behind it designed to bring you to expanded awareness.The point of the teachings may not be apparent at first as with any Eastern tradition.Awakenings reveal themselves slowly even while you experience instant benefits.
The results include becoming much bigger (in the spiritual sense) than you ever imagined.You can expect to feel great, attractive, and self-confident.You will feel more focused on fulfilling your intentions.Your relationships will feel uplifted.You’ll develop compassion, forgiveness and find yourself with less desire and attachment to whatever or however you might have insisted that things go in your life.Tantra teaches you to surrender, let go of your desires by going though them rather than denying them.This leads you to opening to all that exists.
While other forms of meditative practice teach you to renounce bodily sensation and focus on transcending worldly attachment, in Tantra, you learn to use the body’s sensations as a finely tuned inner compass to steer you towards cosmic consciousness.
Do you need to have a partner or be part of a couple?No.Up until the current fascination with Tantra in the Western world, it was primarily practiced by celibate monks who knew that circulating their sexual energy would keep them healthy and vital, retarding the aging process – a virtual fountain of youth.
It often takes years of practice to overcome resistance in the mind and belief system, but Tantra is a pleasurable form so you can enjoy yourself while learning.Each new technique, when added to your life will produce calm and peace in your daily existence almost instantly.Why not check it out?
How to get started: A simple Tantric Sexercise
The object of this very simple, yet fundamental exercise is to move sexual energy from the lower part of the body (genitals) to the rest of the body including extremities so that the body wakes up, using its own vital life force.You can use this technique to make yourself feel energized and happy.You can also use it during self sex or sex with a partner.It brings the sexual energy up the body to the heart and even the head and then allows the energy back down again through using the inhale and exhale.
Part 1 – Charging Breath
Put on some great tribal drum music.
Begin squeezing the anal sphincter muscles and the PC (sex) muscles to the beat. Once you have the beat, begin exhaling at the same moment you squeeze (so you are breathing in followed by exhale and simultaneous squeeze)
Begin making the sound Ooooo each time you squeeze and exhale over and over again. Next change the sound to Ahhhhhhh for maybe seven squeezes. Then begin to alternate the sounds Ooooo, Ahhhh, Ooooo, Ahhhh building a sexual charge in the body. Speed it up to double time with the music making the sounds rapidly.
At about the 5 minute mark change what you are doing…
Part 2 – Transmutation Breath
Take a big inhale through the nose while tightening every single muscle in the body – especially those sphincters and the PC’s, but not limited to them – include the face the shoulders, the fists, the feet – and hold the breath.
Take a quick sniff through the nose focusing on bringing sexual energy away from the genitals up to your third eye.
Hold the breath.
Then release the breath feeling the energy fall back down to the genitals making a big sigh.
Repeat part 2 two more times
Part 3 - Close Your Eyes - Notice How You Feel
(Note:After familiarizing yourself with this exercise, do it entirely with your eyes closed.)
Laurie Handlers, MA, is the author of Sex & Happiness and President of Butterfly Workshops, LLC, a Phoenix, AZ based company currently offering sexual health and awareness courses and leadership courses for corporations and individuals throughout the world. She hosts a weekly radio show about sex and intimacy and has appeared in many articles, books and films. Find out more at www.butterflyworkshops.com.