You are here: Home » Press Release » Displaying items by tag: Rhonda Farrah

Displaying items by tag: Rhonda Farrah

Friday, 15 February 2013 11:20

Do You Love Yourself?

When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad, you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you. –Unknown

Loving yourself is the single most important principle on this planet in the creation process. If you don't love yourself, it is likely that you won't decide to give yourself the things you think you want. Likely that you won't think you deserve them, and even more that you certainly won't have the energy to take action to create them. Of this I am certain!

When we were born, most of us were the center of the universe. Remember? Everything revolved around us and our welfare. And then around age 2, socialization took over and familial and societal rules demanded the giving up of self. Remember that? Share the toy you want, don't ask for what you want, don't want. Good little girls and boys didn't do those things. Now we're adults screaming, "Why can't I create what I want?" Hey…I know!
It's time to reclaim that little person inside that knew they were good enough, smart enough, brave enough, and special enough to ask for, and get, what they wanted. It's been so long that most of us have lost the art of even knowing how to ask for what we want. Take it from “Little Rhonda” (“lr”) - it’s time!

In my speaking engagements and seminars, often when I ask for people to state the above, I get responses like: "I don't want to worry about money anymore," and "I don't want to be alone," or "I don't want this disease, illness, this sickness." Nobody says what they want!! They tell me what they want by stating what they DON'T want. Wow. What’s that about???!!!

It doesn't tell me what anyone wants. It doesn't give me clear direction. That is what most of us are doing with the universe, and the universe is replying, "Hey YOU - I don't understand the direction. Say what? I can't deliver the performance, that which your soul is requesting and craving!"
I say we all give ourselves permission to love ourselves enough to give us - and the creative force - a very clear statement of desire for manifestation: Wellness, Freedom, Love, Bliss, Security, Peace, Grace & Happiness. I AM, and create, all in my life because I create me as these experiences within first. Match THAT, universe. And the Universe says, "Yes."

We all want money. Ask for it. We all want love and passion. Ask for it. We all want wellness and unlimited energy. Ask for it. What are we waiting for? Really!

The original meaning of the ancient Hebrew teaching "Ask and you receive" was "Claim or demand, and you receive." Well, I am stepping forward to claim and demand the attributes of freedom, love, etc. to perfectly match up with the money and passion I claim. Really! And I am standing strong in my knowing that when I experience my own love and power, I give everyone the excitement, right and power to do the same. And the Universe says "Yes," “Little Rhonda”. The Universe says - "YES…your wish is my command!"

While I invite my audiences to consider a number of avenues to loving self, I will leave you with what I consider the essentials of self love:

Treat Others With Love And Respect

Bringing joy to other people's lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude. However, don't just be kind to people so you can receive royal treatment.

Learn To Let Go Of Past Events

You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives/bad beginnings or moments. Don't close yourself to good things out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though, forgive yourself.

Forgive Yourself

Don't punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: “I forgive myself for _______.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself. Look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don't ever demean or ridicule yourself. If you do, laugh out loud, realizing that was then and this is now. Every day is a new beginning. If you did something you are not proud of, resolve to never do it again and take steps to keep it out of your mind.

Do What You Love

What do you love to do? If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result you become happier and more loving. Do what you love. As a result you become happier and more loving. Ask yourself: What makes my tail wag?!

Treat Yourself Like Treating Your Very Best Friend

How do you treat your very best friend? Do you treat him/her with love, kindness, trust, appreciation, acceptance, and respect? If you can give that to your friend, why don’t you give that to yourself? Practice treating yourself like you treat your very best friend by saying kind words to yourself. Stop calling yourself names. Stop beating yourself up. Give yourself compliments. Know your boundaries and listen deeply to your needs. Always be kind and gentle with yourself.

Nurture Yourself

Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself. You can nurture yourself physically by exercising and consuming healthy food. You can nurture yourself emotionally by listening to love songs, painting, or helping others in need. As you give yourself to others and offer help, you receive the gift of love back. You feel good about yourself because you live your life on purpose. You can nurture yourself mentally by reading your favorite books. You can nurture your spirituality by doing meditation.

We spend so much time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching, yearning for that special love. Feeling empty and lost without it, wanting someone to give us love and fill us up. Unfortunately, that’s not usually how life works. Loving yourself is mainly having self-respect which is the only dependable way to create love in your own life to share with others. When you expect love from an external source, and someone or something does not fulfill your void and fantasies, then you will feel worse than before. To be able to be loved, you must love and respect yourself as much as you do others.

Understanding the effects of loving yourself will only enhance your ability to love others. By doing so, you are enabling positive energy and allowing for great situations to occur in your life. This guide will help. Never think that you're living your life for nothing. Every day, there are people coming in and out of the world, so spend it wisely and respect yourself.

In order to love someone, you must love yourself! Of this, I AM certain!

To Our Health, Wealth & Empowerment Together!

With Love & Blessings!

Rhonda

Tuesday, 17 July 2012 12:40

How Free Are You?

By Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA

Are YOU Choosing A Life of Freedom…Yet???!!!

"Decide what to be and go be it" - The Avett Brothers

Seems like yesterday that I was counting down the last 100 days of 2011 with my radio listening audience on Help Me Rhonda…NOW! and preparing for 2012, and our changing times. Yet here we are with 2012 half over!

With this, the month of Freedom and Independence - Let Freedom Ring - even if just for a moment or so.

Always remember, What YOU do and who YOU are MATTERS!

Early in the year, everyone talks about planning, changes, moving-forward, transformations, and some interesting and well-meant resolutions get made that may or may not come to fruition.

But what about Freedom? Freedom to be who you are without feeling the “need” to please anyone but yourself? Are you hemmed in by the tyranny of the “shoulds?” We all know those “shoulds”(cousin to “I’d better”, and “I have to”) all too well! They’re the unnecessary measuring sticks that make us feel ‘less than.’

I often ask my clients for themes to kick-start their New Year, or new quarter, or a new era in their lives. In fact, I ask myself that very same question! This particular year, I happened to take the theme from a picture of myself looking into the ocean’s horizon (which I tend to do quite often…another article for another time) with my back turned to the camera.

I was immediately inspired by what that picture symbolized. It meant my turning my back to the past and saying “hello and welcome” to my future, to the “now” of me!

In fact, I realized, quite clearly, that…

I want to make this year all about me, and I don’t need to make an effort to fulfill any of those shoulds. “I will be the way that I want to be, the way that I want to feel, and only the people that are okay with that, and like it that way, can be a part of my life!" Really!

I promptly realized that all of us looking for our own mental and internal freedom, and only those who understand it or are on the path to finding it, will allow others to be in and on our Life’s Journey, whether for a minute, a day, or a lifetime. We are also exercising our freedom to choose in advance, who we want in our lives - how, when, where and why. Our inner guidance system is telling us what’s best for us, and choosing freedom to be who we are, and who we want to be NOW, as well as in the future is amazingly refreshing, beautiful, and deeply profound.

My definition of freedom is: “To get rid of beliefs that hold us back and keep us stuck in a limiting external world… in prison”. Trust and Believe. I Truly know what I’m talking about!

Ask YourSelf: What is “Freedom” And what does it mean to YOU?!

Do you want it? Do you long for it? Do you already have it? Will you make it part of your life’s resolutions? Will you choose freedom to be who YOU are and who YOU want to be for the rest of your life?

Celebrate the fact of ‘being’ just who YOU are!

Once again, always remember, what YOU do and who YOU are, MATTERS!

To Our Health, Wealth & Empowerment Together!

Blessings!

Rhonda

Monday, 02 July 2012 12:51

Be Open To The New!

By Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA

"You cannot change anything in your life with intention alone, which can become a watered-down, occasional hope that you'll get to tomorrow. Intention without action is useless." -Caroline Myss

Let’s take a moment this month, as often as possible, to realize and manifest and to demonstrate our Magnificence. Yes, the magnificent beings we are individually, as well as collectively.

I offer this guide to going within and identifying and awakening that authentic power within each of us that remains waiting to be utilized for our highest and best good, our purpose, NOW!

Fear and doubt hold on to the past. They know only what used to be and what was desired. They know what worked before and what did not. They know what other people have done.

What fear and doubt do not know is how things are right now, what newness is surrounding you, what possibilities are sparkling around you that have never existed before this very moment. On this, they are completely ignorant.

And since life is all change and newness, this is exactly what you need to know to access your higher good and be truly free and happy, excited to live your life every day, and pursue new goals with enthusiasm. Nothing is ever the way it was. What failed yesterday could succeed today. What was a success yesterday could be a failure today.

All is change and all is new. Every moment creating the next moment, all flowing out in newness and discovery, in this great adventure of life.

So…be open to the new!

Use the knowledge and wisdom that you have accumulated over the years, use your talents and skills, of course. But leave behind the old views of what is needed to make your way today, for it is not necessarily the same action as what worked for others, or the same as what worked earlier for you.

Go deep, deep into your center. See the flame that burns there: the light of love. Let that light expand, and expand, until it clears your body and mind of fear and doubt. Let it glow within you until you feel cleansed and new, until all worry and anxiety are cleared away from your body and mind.

And now ask:

How shall I approach my life today?

How shall I approach this particular person… this situation?

And be open to the answer. If it comes in words or pictures, in feelings or in a flash of knowing, write it down, for the impression may fade over time.

Use your intuition and your connection in this way, reaching above and beyond the narrow confines of fear and doubt, into the wider reaches of a deep connection with all that is.

You have the ability to know, at whatever way knowing is communicated to you, all that is at this moment, and all that is likely to be. You have guidance and love surrounding you in every moment, waiting for you to pay attention.

So pay attention.

Remove the blinders of fear and doubt and look around.

Look around at what is. Look around at what is needed and how you can serve.

Raise your attention up into your highest levels and access the guidance that is there for you.

Know this:

Your higher self and the universe are one, and at this level, your success and welfare are deeply desired. Everything you need to reach a state of grace is made available to you in every moment.

Everything you are intended to do - and be - is there surrounding you and deeply within you. Everything is known and you can access all of this knowledge.

Use your intuition! Use your faith! Use your ability to connect through meditation and contemplation. Tap into it all and the steps before you will light up, and your path will be made clear!

Then just take a deep breath fill yourself with love and faith and step forward...NOW!

And So it is…Now!!!

To our health, well-being & empowerment together!

With Love & Blessings!

Rhonda

"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."

-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

Rhonda M. Farrah M.A., DRWA Author, Speaker, Entrepreneur, and Spiritual Teacher is dedicated to the practice of Health & Wellness Empowerment, assisting individuals in developing life strategies to help them help themselves. Rhonda’s Health & Wellness Empowerment Coaching includes programs that allow us to become as healthy, fit and trim…in body, mind and Spirit…as we choose to be. Rhonda advocates all Wellness…Personal, Physical, Environmental, & Financial Wellness…NOW!

Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA
The Wellness Institute International
Call toll free 888.770.7370

This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

www.HelpMeRhondaNow.com
www.TheWellnessInstitute.tv
www.WunMagazine.com

www.BlogTalkRadio.com/Wun-Luv-Radio
Speak Up, The World Is Listening!

Wednesday, 09 May 2012 12:55

Self Love & Masturbation

By Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA

As Woody Allen famously said…

“Don’t knock masturbation – it’s sex with someone I love”

Mention the word “Masturbation” and what do you think of? While masturbation means different things to different people, it is one of the most misunderstood subjects in the world, as it is enshrined in mystery and secrecy because of the simple reason we speak so little about it. Masturbation may evoke massive levels of guilt and shame, as many of us were told from when we were young not to touch ourselves “down there”.

You might be scowling as you read this, but do you ever stop to recognize the tremendous good that can be found in this solo-sex activity we often perform quietly, quickly, and secretly? Also known as self-pleasuring, solo sex or self-love, masturbation is 100% safe sex, relieves depression and leads to a higher sense of self-esteem amongst many other benefits.

Females masturbate too, of course. I decided to include some of the most frequently asked questions on masturbation by some of my female and male clients, as well as, my answers.

1. Is masturbation bad for you?

All human beings are born sexual and there is no limit placed on the frequency of sexual encounters humans can engage in, including masturbation (which is a good thing). Masturbation is perfectly healthy and an important part of sexual health. Like all sex, masturbation is related to our physical, emotional, psychological, social, and even spiritual state. Be aware of your body – watch for signs of soreness or sensitivity, and slow down if needed. If your masturbation is causing you continued distress, pain, or feels compulsive, you might want to talk to a qualified sexologist.

2. Should I masturbate before sex to last longer the second time?

The real question appears to be about lasting longer. To last longer, you can learn the stop-start technique by yourself, which is essentially slowing down before reaching the point-of-no-return. Breathing more deeply, being more present, and engaging in more foreplay will all help you to last longer. Masturbating beforehand can actually reduce your own pleasure. There is nothing wrong in masturbating early in the day or as many times as your body desires.

3. Is it normal to masturbate after marriage?

Many men and women continue to masturbate when they are in a relationship, even those who are married. It does not imply that there is something wrong in the relationship. Some of the reasons married people still continue to masturbate include using it to release stress, not wanting to go through the whole process of sex, as a quick energizer, stress reliever or when partner is not available.

Masturbation is a great way to learn about your own body… including mastering your orgasm potential. Let go of the guilt.
One more Insight on Self-Love…with or without masturbation…before we go…

The way you accept love, makes a lot of difference. If you do not know how to accept love then the relationship might turn out to be a difficult one. Here we will discuss on How to Accept Love. It might help you in different ways.

Recognize the Love

It would be very unfortunate if you do not recognize true love. There are several people on this earth who are showering their love to you. You might be hesitant, you might not understand. But try to recognize the power of love around you. This love can make your life. So be cautious and recognize the love.

Let Bravery Serve YOU

Don’t be afraid to accept love. At times we are a little hesitant to recognize true love. While we fall in love we think it might not work. Or we also think that we might go out of control. But love is a new beginning of your life. You will feel refreshed and relaxed once you are in love. So, accept love and cherish your life.

Be Polite

To accept love you need to be clam and polite. Speak softly. Remove the tension of your life. Let things come to your way in a style. Your softness will allow the love to come to your way.

Believe In YourSelf

You need to believe that you can do it. So, when in love you need to believe that you can make the difference. This belief will help you to make your life move the way you like it. Your belief will make you a winner in every step of life.

Don’t recall the past

The past may not be very pleasant for you. So, it does not mean that the present will give you the same experience. Move on in life. That is the secret to a beautiful life. Accept love as it comes and life will move with a different swing.

Be Open

Do not restrict yourself. Be open minded. Love is always in the air. You just need to understand and reciprocate rightly to it. But do not hurry. That is another word of caution while you are accepting love.

In the words of Mark Twain… “The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself.”

Love will make your life beautiful and you will never regret falling in love. But make sure that you fall in love with the right person. Yeah…How easy is that?! Be silent for some times as you need to realize that the person who is made for you is just around you. You have wonder in you. There are unique qualities in you. The qualities in you need to be nurtured as you accept love. Show that you care. Your care can also create wonders. So accept love don’t miss out on it.

So…Ask YourSelf…Who is rightly made for you? If someone is showing real interest in you, then you can react to it. If someone shows extra care for you understand that it might be a signal for you to understand that love is around.

To Your Health, Wellness, & Empowerment…NOW!
Blessings!
Rhonda

"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."
-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA
The Wellness Institute International
Call toll free 888.770.7370

This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

www.HelpMeRhondaNow.com
www.TheWellnessInstitute.tv
www.WunMagazine.com

www.BlogTalkRadio.com/Wun-LuvRadio
Speak Up…The World Is Listening!

Published in SEX & TOYS

Wednesday, 25 April 2012 13:41

Are You Enjoying Life?

By Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Have you ever had one of “those” days, weeks, months or years? Who hasn’t? You wake up, set your feet firmly on the floor, step onto the roller coaster of life and strap yourself in for another day. The ride is constantly changing. Whether it gently slopes or takes you careening around curves at 120 mph and within an inch of your life, that's all part of the human experience. When you get off the ride each night, you may be happy, scared, nauseous, wind blown or on your way to the chiropractor. Whatever happens on that ride each day, if you make it in one piece, good for you - you’re a winner!

But did you have the experience you wanted to have at every twist, turn and drop of the ride? Sometimes we enjoy each aspect of the ride and sometimes we don’t. At times the ride is easy and yet, at other times the same ride can be difficult and exhausting. Why is that? The answer may be found in a personal change of view. Maybe it’s as simple as moving to another seat on the ride? We have become used to sitting in one place, but, if we take a risk and move around, we can alter our lives in a profound way. Why? If we shift our seat, we shift our view. A new view will change the ride for us and alter our experience of life.

Let’s assume for the sake of argument, that we will all disembark the ride safely each day. It may seem like a large assumption, but in reality, most of us do make it back to the safety of our bunny slippers and flannel pajamas. Have you ever looked around at the other people on the ride with you? Have you noticed that some of them have their eyes clenched and breath held? Other people on the ride seem downright serene. A few are trying to figure out the physics of the ride. Others are laughing and talking. Some are screaming with excitement! And then there are the riders waving their hands in the air as they plummet to earth. Where do you think you fit in? Are you a hand waver, a laugher or an eye clencher?

Of course, our circumstances change daily and our reactions are influenced by those circumstances. Birth, death, falling in love and losing hope are just some of the circumstances in life that people experience and react to. Could it be that our reaction to those circumstances is also defined by our viewpoint? Let me be clear, if you experience trauma, I am not saying that your reaction of sadness, guilt, anger or fear is the result of choosing the wrong seat on the coaster. But have you ever been in the presence of someone who is going through a tragedy with a hopeful heart? There may be tears, but through those tears, these people continue to see joy in each new day. They find the “silver lining” in grief. These are people who are masters at changing their view.

There was a time in my life that I would ride the coaster with my own eyes clenched, breath held and knuckles pearly white. It took me some time to identify positive steps I could take to change my riding technique. My goal was not to become a hand waver. That would be too big a leap for me. But, I wanted to be a calm and happy passenger, laughing and enjoying the ride. And, I didn’t want to have to work too hard to make this shift happen. Here’s the game I came up with, maybe it will work for you too!

Make A List Of Views (seats on the roller coaster) That Are Empowering For You

For example, one of my empowering views is “trust.” When I am in the trust seat, no matter what I see or hear, I know that I will exit the ride that day in a better place. My list also includes; love, prosperity, action, intelligence, health, well-being and fun.

Make A List Of Disempowering Views

My list includes: not enough money, not enough time, lack of love, loneliness, anxiety and fear.

1.    Take some time to do the exercise above. It will take about 5 to 10 minutes.

2.    Sit comfortably and close your eyes. Take a breath.

3.    Feel your body in the chair. Feel your hands, head, arms and legs. Feel your feet on the floor.

4.    Acknowledge sounds you hear and the thoughts that are in your mind.

5.    Once you are fully aware of your immediate environment, expand the picture. Become aware of the room in which you are sitting and the building that you are in. Stretch that awareness to include your street and neighborhood.

6.    Expand your awareness further to include your state, province, country and world. Become aware of your place in this world and the other people who share it with you.

7.    When you have fully experienced your connection to the world, bring your attention back to your body.

8.    Picture yourself on the roller coaster. Which seat are you sitting in? Is it on your empowering or disempowering list? Look around you. Take in the other people on the ride. They are smiling at you. They are not in a hurry. They are waiting until you find the seat that is perfect for you right now. Take your time and choose the seat that fits you in this moment.

Once you have your list of empowering seats, keep it with you. You may need to switch seats at a moments notice. The more you do, the better you will get at it. Who knows, we all may be hand wavers one day!

In the meantime…Don’t forget to buckle up and enjoy the ride!

To The Living The LIFE We Desire…One Moment At A Time…NOW!

With Love & Blessings!

Rhonda

About the Author: Rhonda M. Farrah M.A., Author, Speaker, Entrepreneur, and Spiritual Teacher is dedicated to the practice of Wellness Empowerment, assisting individuals in developing life strategies to help them help themselves. Her creative endeavors are dedicated to individual empowerment and the conscious evolution of humankind, that we may align perfectly with our Creator, fulfilling our Purpose while enjoying its process.

"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."
-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA
The Wellness Institute International

Call toll free 888.770.7370

This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it
This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it
www.HelpMeRhondaNow.com

www.BlogTalkRadio.com/Wun-Luv-Radio
Speak Up, The World Is Listening!

Published in LIFESTYLE

Thursday, 02 February 2012 12:36

Will The Real Love Please Stand Up?

By Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA

Will The Real Love Please Stand UP…NOW?!

With February Being the LOVE month…with Valentine’s Day approaching…and chocolate covered strawberries, roses, Cupid’s arrow, and those proverbial Hallmark wishes…Let’s Talk About Love!

Let’s talk about Truth…NOW! …’cause Love is in the air!

Our primary relationship is with ourselves. When we love ourselves fully and unconditionally, we throw open the channels between ourselves and the universe to give and receive love.

Got IT? Get IT? GREAT!!!

If someone were to ask me: "What is the most difficult challenge that you've faced in your life?" I would unhesitatingly reply: "To be myself." To be oneself in all situations is often an impossible job that calls for effort, courage and brutal honesty. But, to be myself I need to know myself. And to know myself, I must Love myself.

Most of us hate to describe ourselves as self-loving because we have been told that this is narcissistic; that there is an element of wantonness in admitting: "I am a wonderful person and I Love myself"

Ask Yourself: When I look into the mirror, am I happy with what I see? Do I ever allow my imperfections to neutralize what is best in me? Do I accept myself without conditions?

Dale Carnegie, the best-selling author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, tells the story of a woman, Edith, who, as a child, used to be sensitive, shy and overweight. She never went to parties, never had any fun and always felt that she was different and undesirable. Later, she married a man several years her senior. Her in-laws were all outgoing, poised and confident people. But that did not affect Edith's shyness. She felt she was a failure and feared that if her husband found out the truth, it would be the end of their marriage. So, Edith put up a show of gaiety, while deep within unhappiness eroded her. One day, she overheard her mother-in-law say, referring to the secret behind her children's poise and happiness: "No matter what happened, I always insisted on my children being themselves." Almost overnight Edith changed. She began a search for herself, building on her strong points, accepting without apology her weaker points.

Striving for authenticity in thought and action is the first mature step in self-evolution. We feel alienated from others because we don't show our real selves for fear of rejection. The result is internal dissonance. We can connect with our inner selves only when we peel off all masks. To accept the totality of our being, we must become compassionate towards ourselves. Accepting our negativity is an integral part of the human experience; we can then extend this to others. This is true compassion.

The American philosopher, Emerson makes a valid point in his essay On Self-reliance: "There is a time in every man's education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and none but he knows what that is, which he can do, nor does he know until he has tried."

Ironically, we spend a major part of our lives with a begging bowl, pleading for love from others. We believe that we will feel better if people love us. But the love I want begins with me. I can experience real love only when I fill myself with love…and am willing to give it to others. The more I give, the more I receive.

All our life's experiences comprise an endless learning act. We merely need the willingness. We must all learn to bypass the cacophony of the world to reach into the silence of our soul. In order to love, in order to be happy, we must learn to be present in each moment. Don't keep your happiness on hold. Hey, life is not a dress rehearsal. Now is the only time we have.

If we work for them, all our material dreams can be achieved. But if what we seek is something beyond, something that endures within us, we must give priority to love and happiness. We are willing to invest time and money in the pursuit of material gains, but we don't do the same to establish love, happiness and peace of mind. If only each of us could pray to alleviate the pain and suffering of others, we could make that vital connection with the real us.

In his book Seat of the Soul, Gary Zukav asks his readers not to pass value judgment or censure anybody. If we do so, we in turn will be judged by the universe and penalized accordingly. Judgments build walls between people, creating hostility. When negative thoughts intrude, break their flow by repeating to yourself words such as love, joy and harmony. Words weave patterns in our lives. Build up a vocabulary of words that have positive connotations.

Tomorrow really never comes. We have only today, maybe only this fleeting minute. So let us be grateful for every moment that comes our way. Many successful people began and ended their day by an act of gratitude. The universe, God —call it what you will—has been magnanimous with us today.

So let us close our eyes, recall every happy moment that we have experienced, and thank this power with all our heart. As gratitude and appreciation grow and fill your life, you will learn how to sincerely love yourself for what you really are.

There is not a single person in this universe who leads a problem-free life. Yet we encounter people whose lives appear dynamic and joyous. What sets them apart? The answer: they do not allow themselves to be immobilized by little things. They respond to problems with ease, change things that can be changed and accept those that can't. In the process, they come closer to the wisdom of discernment.

In this harsh, inconsistent world where people's sense of esteem stems from degrees of workaholism, there is an intangible, sinking feeling of emptiness. We need to fill this with a sense of inner quietness. But inner peace and an outer, perfection-obsessed attitude are incompatible companions.

Contemporary wisdom would have us believe that packing each day with things that need to be done is the secret of success. But life isn't all about getting things done as much as it is about enjoying each step along the way. Many a marital discord erupts from couples' obsession with getting everything done in record time and to perfection. If, on the other hand, I ask myself each night: "Has my Life made a little bit of difference to at least one person?" and hear a resounding "Yes!" in reply, all the things I haven't managed to do over the day would not matter at all.

Remember…

Self love forms the foundation of your single, most important relationship – the one with yourself. The strength of all your other relationships is exactly equal to the strength of that foundation. To love yourself is not just a self-esteem boosting piece of advice. It is the prerequisite for truly loving others. The Golden Rule tells us to "love your neighbor as you love yourself". You are likely to have heard it many times, expressed in different ways, thinking it is about loving others. Look a little closer though, and you will find that at its very centre is the command to love yourself.

Will the Real Self Love Please Stand Up?

To love yourself is to be in awe of the miracle of your existence. It is to accept yourself as you are - the "light" parts and the "dark", the "good" and the "bad" - while knowing that the real you is above the perceived dualities of the physical realm. It is to be willing to receive as much as you are willing to give and do both equally. It is about knowing your values and your boundaries and honoring them. It is about teaching others how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself. It is about being kind to yourself. It is about looking after your mind, your body and your Spirit; all three. It is about knowing you are worth it, not because of what you have achieved or what you look like or what others think of you, but because

Love is your birthright no matter what.

To YOU Loving YOU!

With Love & Blessings!
Rhonda

Rhonda M. Farrah M.A., DRWA Author, Speaker, Entrepreneur, and Spiritual Teacher is dedicated to the practice of Health & Wellness Empowerment, assisting individuals in developing life strategies to help them help themselves. Rhonda’s Health & Wellness Empowerment Coaching includes programs that allow us to become as healthy, fit and trim…in body, mind and spirit…as we choose to be. Rhonda advocates all Wellness…Personal, Physical, Environmental, & Financial Wellness…NOW!

Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA
The Wellness Institute International

Call toll free 888.770.7370

This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it
www.HelpMeRhondaNow.com
www.TheWellnessInstitute.tv

Published in LIFESTYLE

Wednesday, 11 January 2012 12:03

New Year, New You

By Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA

“When nothing seems to help, I look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps 100 times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet, at the 101st blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that last blow that did it, but all that had gone before.”

-Jacob A. Riis

Resolutions

“This is the year that I’m going to get in shape, shed those bad habits, eat right, etc”

That’s what new years are for - new beginnings, of course!

But by January 31st, sometimes sooner, what has usually occurred? Back to the old ways, and complete withdrawal of those wonderful new year’s resolutions.

Resolution, To resolve is defined by Webster’s as:

To form a purpose; to make a decision; especially, to determine after reflection; as, to resolve on a better course of life.

Yes, to resolve is to form a purpose. To achieve something as part of a larger plan, where keeping in mind the “Big Picture” is essential and crucial.

You must continually ask yourself why you’re doing this thing thing you have pledged. You need to know why you are giving up the chocolate and junk food, why you are starting a realistic exercise program, why you refuse to procrastinate any longer when it comes to being as healthy, fit and trim as you can be.

Yes, yes, and yes, it all goes back to purpose! And no purpose means no resolve whereas a BIG purpose facilitates staying the course! Why would you put forth any effort if there were no physical, emotional or spiritual benefits along the way and at the end of the process of fulfilling this purpose? You wouldn’t!

Hence, so many new year’s resolutions are cast aside, broken or forgotten.

Time to try something NEW! In fact, not just new, but NOW, regarding our health and wellness goals and everything in between. Let’s practice something that works. Let’s focus on what’s truly in it for you.

You must have reasons to persevere. Reasons to keep your eye on the benefits, and they must be good; they must be meaningful to you!

What are the emotional benefits? Any? Write them down! How will you feel when you reach your goal; as well as all along the way as you progress? Visualize it often.

This is crucial in maintaining your resolve.

How will your relationships be affected when you reach your goal? Visualize it!

Would anyone else like to see you succeed? How would it benefit them? Would you like that?

Any physical benefits associated with you keeping your resolve? Less pain? More energy and vitality? A smaller size dress on the new you? Really, how would you feel?

Write down all the benefits, even if it takes you days or weeks to think of all of the advantages. Carry the list with you and read it often – everyday at least!

UNDERSTAND that this very kind of resolve becomes a habit. It’s a skill to generate resolve and stay purposeful. But it’s worth it because it affects every single part of your life - NOW and forever!

Not to mention that these new habits will assist you in developing your character - that description of a person’s attributes, traits and abilities that defines you to the world.

So, just don’t read this and forget about it. This is a formula for life success! It is MORE than simply an idea that can only affect a small and inconsequential area of your life! THIS IS HUGE!!!

If you can stick to even one important resolution or goal, from start to completion, because of constantly keeping your focus on the benefits, then your personal attributes, traits and abilities will grow in direct proportion to your level of commitment to keep those benefits directly in front of you!

You can DO IT! Let this year be your best year ever!
Congratulations to the new and improved you!

Have a sparkling and blessed NEW YEAR!!!

All the Best in Health & Wellness, Peace, Love, & Joy in every aspect of Your Life all throughout 2012!

And…Remember…Have a tremendously Magnificent & Successful day…Everyday!

With Love & Blessings!
Rhonda

"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."

-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA

The Wellness Institute International

Call toll free 888.770.7370

This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it
www.HelpMeRhondaNow.com
www.TheWellnessInstitute.tv

www.BlogTalkRadio.com/Wun-Luv-Radio
Speak Up, The World Is Listening!

Published in LIFESTYLE

LIKE IT! RETWEET!

What's Up?

Total Body Workouts For Spring - KendraWilkinson.com
Top 10 Sex Positions - She Knows
10 Celeb-Inspired Activities To Usher In Springtime - Betty Confidential
Is Lack Of Sleep Getting In The Way Of Your Relationship? - Your Tango
When Your Tastes Clash: How To Design & Decorate As A Couple - Casa Sugar
Hitched: 7 Things I Regret About Our Wedding - The Frisky
5 Ways To Have A Hotter Sex Life - Huffington Post
He Dumped Me & We Work Together! - Tres Sugar