The Truth About Men and Cuddling
By Dishing With Dimitri
MEN HATE TO CUDDLE.
I’m not sure who made this observation, but it’s about as factual as the whole “check out the size of his shoes thing, (for the record I wear a 13 ½; I’m just saying). Shoes have no correlation to penis size, yet this urban myth has managed to stand the test of time and no one knows exactly where it came from.
Unless you’re a size 13 ½, then it’s all true.
But seriously, the fact is men do like to cuddle, I just think we’re pretty selective about when and who we cuddle with. I’m a cuddler. That may not be the most masculine way of putting it, but hell it’s the truth. I don’t mind a little spooning or just laying together, if I really like the woman and care about her. In my mind I think it makes her feel secure and I think that’s a good thing. Besides I’m a very touchy-feely person, so I enjoy the sensation of skin on skin contact.
As I started thinking about cuddling and my friends, I tried to figure out just how I would broach the topic with my buddies.
“Hey Pete. Do you like to cuddle?”
Envisioning my friends shifting uncomfortably while they tried to figure out where the hell I was going with this made me decide that it’d be best to not ask them directly. So instead, I figured I’d wait until we got to a bar with some chicks around and make it a sort of group discussion.
Nothing brings out the truth like liquor. Think of how many late night calls you’ve made, telling someone how much you will always love them, only to awaken, with the sickest feeling in the pit of your stomach because you know you’ve just sounded like the drunk stalker that you secretly are. You hope it’s a dream, but your phone’s call log does not lie.
Okay maybe I’ve told you a little bit more about myself than I should have.
Anyway what I found out in the conversation is that I’m not alone in my cuddling stance. Most of my friends like to. And the women all seemed to like it too. To a woman they agreed that cuddling is a direct reflection on how a man feels about a woman. No cuddle, no love.
All of us decided that cuddling is good except when:
1. It’s extremely hot
2. The cuddler did not shower
3. The fellas are over watching the game and drinking beer
4. You barely know each other (including one-night stands)
5. Your parents are around
And I think that was about it.
The fact is cuddling is a good thing for the soul. And as a part time tree hugger and tofu eater, I’m all about spiritual and physiological well being. And besides, have you ever seen two people who are cuddling argue?
By Aquiah Maat
Ahhhhhh CUDDLING! Sounds innocent doesn't it? NOT!!!!
Cuddling is a loaded word that can mean very different things to different people.
For instance if a woman says to a man " Can you come over and cuddle with me?" what she is really saying is "I don't want to have sex with you but I don't feel like being alone tonight." Believe me, if he makes a move to turn cuddling into sex she will not hesitate to throw the "cuddling" word up as the KRYPTONITE to his unwanted advances. (I know I have)
If a man says the same thing to a woman what he is really saying is "come over and let me fondle you in the hopes that you will give me what I really want….SEX!" Yet he uses the word "cuddling" as a way to appeal to her softer more sentimental side.
Tricky little word, isn't it?
Now I suppose in more serious relationships cuddling can be a sweet and intimate thing between two people. For me it has always felt more like a smothering tactic being used against me. I am a bit of a wiggle worm and prefer my space and freedom especially when I'm sleeping. This is usually a shock to men because they are most often the one running from the death grip of their female cuddlier.
Men, here is a bit of good vocational advice, If the word cuddling is used in any way as a lead-in to a meeting try this…..actually cuddle! Without copping a feel, trying to get her "hot" or pressing your rock hard manhood on the small of her back. FYI…that's not a turn on! it's annoying at best and closer to gross! She may be so surprised and impressed that she of her own free will gives you what you been waiting on….
A good night sleep and hot pop tart as she sees you to the door in the morning.
Until the next time….HAPPY CUDDLING!