Take Back Your Sexy
Is that little nagging voice in your head saying that you aren’t sexy or aren’t sexy enough? Does your mother or your aunt point out every pound you gain? Maybe they mention or point at every blemish on your face or skin. Unfortunately, we all have people in our lives who feel the need to point out our “flaws” or the things they feel aren’t “good enough.” But that doesn’t mean we have to listen to them.
Here are some definitions of “Sexy”:
• Sexually suggestive or stimulating
• Generally attractive or interesting
• Arousing desire: arousing or intended to arouse sexual desire
• Appealing: appealing because of being new, interesting, or trendy
• Concerned predominantly or excessively with sex; risqué: a sexy novel.
• Sexually interesting or exciting; radiating sexuality.
• Excitingly appealing; glamorous: a sexy new car.
• Provoking or intended to provoke sexual interest
• Feeling sexual interest; aroused
• Interesting, exciting, or trendy
Those definitions are fine but as far as I’m concerned, a big part of being and feeling sexy is in our minds.
Our sexual attraction and sexual arousal starts in our minds because the mind is the biggest and most important sexual organ in our bodies. I know what you are thinking but the mind is the organ of the body that you need to engage to be and feel sexy.
A friend of mine made an interesting comment that summed it up well, he said, “A woman who is attractive, holds her head up, looks me straight in the eye when we talk and who exudes confidence in herself is undeniably sexy.” Did you notice he didn’t say drop dead gorgeous or skinny or any of the other usual things that the media tells us is supposed to be sexy?
Keep this in mind – even if you don’t have perfect skin or a perfect body and on and on, you can still feel and be sexy. Be confident about yourself and your abilities, feel good and positive about yourself. Hold your head up, give people a firm and confident handshake when you meet and look them in the eye when you talk – and you’re on your way to being and feeling sexy. The opposite sex will notice. But even more importantly, you will feel great.
Nikki Leigh, Relationship Coach and Master Sexpert