Foreplay – Get Your Juices Flowing
By Nikki Leigh
There are so many awesome types of foreplay – where to start? Sexy texts to each other throughout the day about plans for later that night. A steamy note left in your purse. Cuddling and snuggling. Almost any stimulating activity that doesn’t include, but can lead to intercourse. Hmmm, that includes a lot of very enjoyable things. Here are my top three!
Let’s start by building sexual suspense and anticipation – this would be easy with one partner blindfolded – I’ll go first. Then each of my other senses are heightened. I would feel every gentle touch of his hands, whether gentle or more forceful and passionate, whether with his warm hands that I know so well or with some scented lube to help his hands glide over my body easier. At some point he would turn on some sexy music, either a tune with a smoky, sexy voice or a CD with songs that feature a pulsing beat that increases over time – building with our excitement. Pulling his hand closer to me and bringing his fingers to my mouth. I open my mouth, playing with his fingers with my tongue and lips, sucking them sensually, tasting him.
Massage would be my next choice. Moving closer together, pulling his shirt over his head and asking him to sit facing me. I pour some massage oil into the palm of my hand and begin massaging his fingers, then his hand and moving up his arm. Massaging his shoulders and sliding my hands to his other arm, repeating the same attention to his forearm, wrist, hand and fingers. Taking his hands in mine, I pull him close and we move to another foreplay favorite….
It took all my patience not to kiss him, but its time. Our lips touch – tentatively at first, the tips of our tongues touch, gently at first. Every time we kiss, it feels like the first time with that jolt of electricity that pulses through my body, making every part of my body tingle with anticipation. As the kiss becomes more passionate, he places his hand on my heart and I place my hand on his heart. Hmmm, his heart is beating just as hard as mine. As I am getting lost in the kiss – he moves and begins to kiss the corner of my mouth… my jaw… my neck… just behind my ear… I slide my hand up his leg, feeling a tug as I touch his shorts…mmmmmm, he wants me just as bad as I want him. It’s definitely time…
Nikki Leigh, Love Coach and Master Sexpert – www.lovecoachjourney.com
Foreplay - A 3-Act Sexual Performance
Originally derived from the theatrical meaning, the word foreplay describes the arousal leading up to the sexual encounter. It has the power to bring individuals together for an act that can do more than steal the show. When it comes down to it, humans are designed to be enticed to “the chase” which can promptly lead to the final scene.
When asked to discuss my top three favorite foreplay moves it was hard to just choose three. But thinking about the last time I participated in sex with my partner it was more than easy to come to a conclusion as to what will always get me going and ready for the spot light.
Act I: The Warm Up
The easiest way to take just hanging out with your love interest to the next level is to pull the girl card, “I’m cold.” If he’s into you, or just looking for a fling more than likely he will wrap you up in his jacket or maybe even a blanket. This is the perfect opportunity to work it up with a few body kisses and gradually progress into light touching and rubbing across the surface of each others silky skin. For me, just touching and making out is more than enough to satisfy even some of my most deepest desires romantically.
Act II: Massage Time!
Now a nice back or neck rub is always fun but when I say the word, “massage,” I’m talking about your lady parts. I love having my breasts grabbed firmly, yet light enough to massage in a circular motion. And when we’re talking about going down south, nothing gets me more excited than the perfect execution of a pressured massage to my clit region. As a lady, its good to take note if your partner starts dipping below the panty line in a teasing motion - it is more than appropriate to reciprocate the behavior! Massaging doesn’t always have to be on each other either. Sometimes it's fun to take turns or simultaneously masturbate with your partner.
Act III: Open Wide
When things start getting hot, heavy, and a little slippery when wet, the best thing you can do is make the move. You may or may not be ready for intercourse yet, so it’s a great idea to test the waters with some oral foreplay. From my perspective, I find that oral foreplay actually helps me achieve maximum climax during the finishing moves in sex. A great way to make this part of foreplay fun for everyone is changing it up to the 69 position. When I am receiving oral and feel good about it, I can feed off of that to make my partner moan. And it sounds a bit like a circle-jerk, but when I hear the boy toy becoming vocal about something I am doing right to him, it just makes the foreplay so much more enjoyable.
Now that I think about it this list could easily be continued for at least another ten favorite things. Even though foreplay is defined as the act leading up to the sexual encounter, I find the most important moves to be those that continue during sex. That is the biggest game changer for bringing me to the climax of the sexual performance.
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