Referred to as ‘The Forbidden Fruit’ and also considered by many a taboo topic when it comes to sex, anal is something that can be enjoyed by both parties when done right. Everything you have seen in those dirty videos you rent is nothing more than tips on how NOT to have anal sex with your partner.

The first time I did the naughty-naughty with my partner was the night after prom. Due to female complications, we weren’t able to participate in regular sex, so he begged and pleaded for me to fulfill his boyish fantasy. I do not condone underage drinking, but I was feeling a little loose, and I replied with, “Sure, why not,”

Of course it was a little uncomfortable the first time. No lube, I didn’t know what to expect, and I did have an amateur partner in the sex area. But all of these should never stop an individual from just writing the idea of it off. To me, anal is a really guilty pleasure. Over the years I have perfected the technique to make it as pleasurable as possible. You would be surprised with the stuff I am about to tell you, is in fact stuff you have probably already known.

    * Slippery when wet!

Common sense would tell you to use lube for an encounter such as this, but you would be surprised how many people abstain from the practice of it. Depending on the foreplay leading up to anal, you may have more enough of your own lube to work just fine. But if you are going straight to the point the best advice is to use plenty of it. If you feel any pinching, sharp or intense discomfort it is a huge probability that you aren’t using enough lube. Try making some pregame out of it by applying some to your partner first as well as adding some to the anus area to make insertion as painless as possible.

* Boys, you aren’t a pornstar.. So stop acting like one!

I can’t stress enough how annoying it is when a guy just tries to ram it in, with or without lube, just because they saw it in a porno. As a girl who enjoys anal this is one of the biggest turn offs and mood killers. Even fully lubed up, you should always take it slow at first. Especially if the receiver is a first-timer! Anal isn’t something you do on the first date but more of something you do when you really know your partner in bed.

* Relax!

When feeling discomfort or pain it is perfectly natural for any human to slightly hold their breath. There is a constant argument with various medical professionals and athletic individuals as to the benefit and dangers of breath holding. While some consider it a way to teach your body to endure pain, others consider it as a way to stress your body. From personal experience, holding your breath while your partner gets comfortably inside of you is a great way to ease the pressure off your body. Especially if you don’t know if you are into it just yet. This process shouldn’t take more than a couple seconds. When your significant other is all set it is best if you try to stay as relaxed as possible by deep breathing. In with the good air, and out with the bad.

* Listen with your eyes.

Body language is key during all encounters of life and not just subject to outside the bedroom. But sometimes it is a bit tricky to know if your partner is moaning because its pleasurable, or because she wants to stop. It never hurts that when you finally get in, to ask her if she is doing alright. Because she may need to you take it slower but is too afraid to say something because she wants to make you happy. Or, in my case, she may just be wanting you to go a bit faster.

* Positions are key

Any position you can do in vaginal intercourse, can be mimicked with anal. From a submissive point of view, I prefer doggy-style when it comes down to it. If your partner is having any discomfort in any strange position try switching to missionary. It’s a bit of an awkward angle, but a lot of women have agreed that the comfort of laying on their back has reduced the tension down below. Once your partner is comfortable, try putting their legs above your shoulders. This is a great trick to get it in deeper while still keeping them comfortable.

* Caution: All contents are subject to shifting after take off

This section of the post may be a little graphic, but it is necessary. I have never had a “messy” situation in the bedroom, but it is possible regardless of all the preparations you take to avoid it. One of the easiest ways to keep it clean as the receiver is to make sure you empty all contents before engaging in anal. While you usually can’t predict when you will have intercourse next (unless you write it down in a schedule, which that is kind of awkward), by having an empty bowel and following the advice above you can ease up any doubts of having a “blowback” experience.

* Foreplay!

If you're a guy trying to go straight for anal without any foreplay don’t be surprised if you get rejected. As a female I prefer to have regular intercourse first until I orgasm then move on to anal. There’s nothing like a good shag to release all bodily tension as well as helping to lube and loosen things up down south. A great way to test out if your partner is ready for anal during foreplay is to give her oral sex, while slowly massaging around the anus. It’s a great way to test the waters and see how far you can get her to go.

There are still some females who are turned off by the idea. This may be the fault of a past lover or even religious pressure. If you are confident and follow the tricks above you should be able to ensure that asking them to try it once will become a decently regular thing. From a girls perspective anal has always been a great way to get off when my Aunt Flow is in town. And doing it at least once a month is a great way to keep any partner interested and always wanting more in bed.