This is World Communication Week and people in every relationship have disagreements so here are some tips on how to fight fair. When arguments occur between lovers, a small one can turn into something massive that can actually destroy a relationship if the partners approach the argument the wrong way. Never fear! You can disagree without destroying your relationship. However justified you may feel in blaming someone for something, it will simply lead to increased tension, resentment and defensiveness. So, state your complaint about the situation, but do not blame the person’s personality or character. In other words, follow these rules and fight fair!
Ambush your partner unexpectedly
Call her/him by an offensive name
Criticize h/h personally (criticizing the behavior is ok)
Bring up old arguments
Threaten the relationship
Compare your partner to past lover/s
Go to bed angry
Do not attack your partner by bringing up the issue/s in question at the wrong time. Bad timing can be very inconsiderate and even more destructive.
Don't wait too long to discuss little disagreements. You don't want them to escalate your emotions so that you resent the other person. Relationships can end too soon because people store up the little disagreements until they have assumed giant proportions.
Always make statements that start with â€œIâ€ instead of â€œYouâ€! Focus your words on how you feel rather than criticizing your partner.
Be clear! Don't expect anyone to be able to read your mind. If you can think it, then you can say it clearly and concisely. Just think before you speak.
Be polite! By adding words such as â€œpleaseâ€ and â€œthank you,â€ your partner will better appreciate what you have to say.
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Posted by Dr. Ava Cadell on November 29, 2010 09:15 pm
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