Whether you are celebrating your twenty-fifth wedding anniversary or going on a first date, you want the night to be an enjoyable experience. No matter where you go or what you do, there are ways to make the most of your dinner date.
In any relationship whether it’s new or you’ve been together for a long time, making plans for a date can be the easy part. What you’re going to talk about while out on the date might be the most difficult.
In a new relationship, spend some time talking ahead of time via text, email, or telephone, getting to know each other a little better first. If you pay attention, you’ll have some handy topics to discuss when you’re out together. Perhaps a mention of a hobby can send you to the Internet to do a search to brush up on it before you meet.
If you’ve been with your partner for a while, observe their surroundings to see if they’re reading new material, listen to their gripes about work, or find out if they’ve done anything new recently. These small things can open up big discussions once you’re sitting across the table from each other.
Talk About The Kids
Experts have said to avoid the topic of children when out on a date. While you don’t want your entire evening to center on conversation around the kids in your life, this can be a good place to start.
Married couples can use this as a way to catch up on the busy week’s activities, sharing what the other might have missed their children doing. It’s a good way to reconnect by reminiscing about the birth of your child, the struggles you weathered together, laughing over your kids’ antics, and creating an opportunity to strengthen your unity as a couple by discussing discipline or other issues regarding parenting.
If it’s a first date or new relationship, and one or both of you have children, this can be a good opportunity to learn a little about the parenting style of the other. Sharing frustrations, and hopefully a few laughs, about being a single parent, can bring the two of you closer together, especially if you see potential for a long-term relationship.
Share Dreams, Goals And Passions
No matter how long you’ve known each other, you can always learn something new about your partner.
On a first date, or in a developing relationship, discussing whether or not you both like to travel, your career goals, and life passions are great ways to get to know each other. You might discover things you have in common or that you both enjoy. Perhaps the other person has a hobby you were thinking of taking up, but weren’t sure how to get into. It’s also the perfect opportunity to learn about something you didn’t know before.
With our significant others, our everyday lives can be extremely busy, and we don’t often take time out to discuss anything beyond what needs to be done around the house, bills, or transporting our children to and from activities. Talking about a hobby or activity you were thinking of taking up, or discussing a book, or a television documentary are great ways to reconnect on a different level. You might discover different thoughts your partner has on a subject which can bring on a lively discussion.
Use your date night as an opportunity to discover a goal or dream your partner has you didn’t realize before. This will renew your passion and appreciation for one another, bring the magic back into the relationship and help see each other with fresh eyes. The more you learn, the better the chances are of making another date and doing something new together you’ll both enjoy.
Time And Attention
No matter what you do, or where you go, the greatest gift you can give to your partner is your time and attention.
Don’t answer texts or phone calls, unless your job requires you to be on call, you might be expecting the sitter to contact you, or a family emergency arises.
Make eye contact when the other person is speaking to you. Observe non-verbal communication. This will help you pick up on whether a topic is too sensitive, or inappropriate. You can learn a lot about a person as much by what they say as by what they don’t.
Listen as much as you speak. Nothing bores your date faster than when you do all the talking! Contribute to what the other person is saying without constantly interrupting. If a topic veers off in another direction, make an effort to bring it back to the original discussion if you feel your partner wasn’t finished his or her earlier thought.
Everyone wants to be acknowledged and feel as though they are worth your time and attention. Use first date jitters to fuel your excitement about meeting a new person. Imagine your long-term partner as someone you just met, and are excited to get to know all over again. And make the most of your dinner date!
Kellie is a single mom of four, contemporary romance author and audio book narrator. You can visit with her at: www.kelliekamryn.com