When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad, you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you. –Unknown
Loving yourself is the single most important principle on this planet in the creation process. If you don’t love yourself, it is likely that you won’t decide to give yourself the things you think you want. Likely that you won’t think you deserve them, and even more that you certainly won’t have the energy to take action to create them. Of this I am certain!
When we were born, most of us were the center of the universe. Remember? Everything revolved around us and our welfare. And then around age 2, socialization took over and familial and societal rules demanded the giving up of self. Remember that? Share the toy you want, don’t ask for what you want, don’t want. Good little girls and boys didn’t do those things. Now we’re adults screaming, “Why can’t I create what I want?” Hey…I know!
It’s time to reclaim that little person inside that knew they were good enough, smart enough, brave enough, and special enough to ask for, and get, what they wanted. It’s been so long that most of us have lost the art of even knowing how to ask for what we want. Take it from “Little Rhonda” (“lr”) – it’s time!
In my speaking engagements and seminars, often when I ask for people to state the above, I get responses like: “I don’t want to worry about money anymore,” and “I don’t want to be alone,” or “I don’t want this disease, illness, this sickness.” Nobody says what they want!! They tell me what they want by stating what they DON’T want. Wow. What’s that about???!!!
It doesn’t tell me what anyone wants. It doesn’t give me clear direction. That is what most of us are doing with the universe, and the universe is replying, “Hey YOU – I don’t understand the direction. Say what? I can’t deliver the performance, that which your soul is requesting and craving!”
I say we all give ourselves permission to love ourselves enough to give us – and the creative force – a very clear statement of desire for manifestation: Wellness, Freedom, Love, Bliss, Security, Peace, Grace & Happiness. I AM, and create, all in my life because I create me as these experiences within first. Match THAT, universe. And the Universe says, “Yes.”
We all want money. Ask for it. We all want love and passion. Ask for it. We all want wellness and unlimited energy. Ask for it. What are we waiting for? Really!
The original meaning of the ancient Hebrew teaching “Ask and you receive” was “Claim or demand, and you receive.” Well, I am stepping forward to claim and demand the attributes of freedom, love, etc. to perfectly match up with the money and passion I claim. Really! And I am standing strong in my knowing that when I experience my own love and power, I give everyone the excitement, right and power to do the same. And the Universe says “Yes,” “Little Rhonda”. The Universe says – “YES…your wish is my command!”
While I invite my audiences to consider a number of avenues to loving self, I will leave you with what I consider the essentials of self love:
Treat Others With Love And Respect
Bringing joy to other people’s lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude. However, don’t just be kind to people so you can receive royal treatment.
Learn To Let Go Of Past Events
You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives/bad beginnings or moments. Don’t close yourself to good things out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though, forgive yourself.
Don’t punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: “I forgive myself for _______.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself. Look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don’t ever demean or ridicule yourself. If you do, laugh out loud, realizing that was then and this is now. Every day is a new beginning. If you did something you are not proud of, resolve to never do it again and take steps to keep it out of your mind.
Do What You Love
What do you love to do? If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result you become happier and more loving. Do what you love. As a result you become happier and more loving. Ask yourself: What makes my tail wag?!
Treat Yourself Like Treating Your Very Best Friend
How do you treat your very best friend? Do you treat him/her with love, kindness, trust, appreciation, acceptance, and respect? If you can give that to your friend, why don’t you give that to yourself? Practice treating yourself like you treat your very best friend by saying kind words to yourself. Stop calling yourself names. Stop beating yourself up. Give yourself compliments. Know your boundaries and listen deeply to your needs. Always be kind and gentle with yourself.
Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself. You can nurture yourself physically by exercising and consuming healthy food. You can nurture yourself emotionally by listening to love songs, painting, or helping others in need. As you give yourself to others and offer help, you receive the gift of love back. You feel good about yourself because you live your life on purpose. You can nurture yourself mentally by reading your favorite books. You can nurture your spirituality by doing meditation.
We spend so much time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching, yearning for that special love. Feeling empty and lost without it, wanting someone to give us love and fill us up. Unfortunately, that’s not usually how life works. Loving yourself is mainly having self-respect which is the only dependable way to create love in your own life to share with others. When you expect love from an external source, and someone or something does not fulfill your void and fantasies, then you will feel worse than before. To be able to be loved, you must love and respect yourself as much as you do others.
Understanding the effects of loving yourself will only enhance your ability to love others. By doing so, you are enabling positive energy and allowing for great situations to occur in your life. This guide will help. Never think that you’re living your life for nothing. Every day, there are people coming in and out of the world, so spend it wisely and respect yourself.
In order to love someone, you must love yourself! Of this, I AM certain!
To Our Health, Wealth & Empowerment Together!
With Love & Blessings!
“There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire.”
-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself
Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA
The Wellness Institute International
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