Usually at this time of year, individuals make a list of new year’s resolutions for the coming new year. Perhaps you have already begun your list for the up and coming 2013. But, since new year’s resolutions seldom make it beyond January, I thought I’d offer something a little different, and invite you approach the Magnificent 2013 with vigor!
The greatest thing we have is life. And life holds so many things that are important to us – our dreams, our family and loved ones, the work that we do, fulfilling our purpose and meaning, remembering our divinity as we honor the divine and so much more.
Yet sometimes things can be overwhelming and we long to retreat and burrow our head somewhere due to exhaustion and tiredness. Sometimes we need inspiration to keep us going and stay motivated.
What do you want out of life? What dreams lie in the deepest core of your heart? Each of us is free to dream, to fly, to spread our wings and soar as high as the eagles in the sky. Keep your dreams alive.
Do you feel like giving up? Are the challenges too much to bear? Are you on the verge of quitting? There’s something more to what you are experiencing now. Keep still long enough to hear the voice of wisdom to light your way.
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”—Confucius
What is it that is blocking you from moving forward? Are you feeling fearful? Do you feel like running away? How can you face the difficult obstacles that lie in your path?
Problems, often, are not stop signs, they are guidelines. In the words of Mark Twain: “Do the thing you fear the most and the death of fear is certain.”
Sometimes we just have to take the leap of faith…and just do it!
If we wait for the moment when everything, absolutely everything is ready, we shall never begin.
Remember: We are the creative force of our own lives, and through our own decisions rather than our conditions, if we carefully learn to do certain things, we can accomplish that which we desire.
Let’s embrace and take to heart the words and actions of Ghandi! “Be the change you want to see in the world.”
Believe in yourself. Believe that you have within you all the tools necessary to be the best and grandest version of who you can become and who you really are.
As you begin 2013, know this: 2013, as well as the rest of your future, depends on many things – but mostly on YOU!
January 1st offers the chance to start fresh and implement new life strategies that will boost your well-being.
Earlier in this article, I invited you to “ask yourself.” What questions do you ask yourself every day? Believe it or not, the type of questions you ask determine the kind of life you lead. That’s because your questions trigger their own set of answers, which lead to certain emotions, which lead to certain thoughts, which then lead to certain actions (or inactions), followed by results, in our external world. If you ask yourself limiting questions, you’ll get limited results. If you ask yourself mind-opening, forwarding questions, you’ll gain a lot more out of them.
Some people like to ask questions like “Why am I so unlucky?”, “What if I had done this earlier?” and “Why am I always in such a situation?”. Because these questions are backward looking, the answers you get with them are naturally disempowering. On the other hand, questions like “What can I learn from this experience?”, “What can I do differently to move forward?” and “What am I grateful for?” are empowering. They provoke you and get you thinking, putting you on the path to a better life.
If you’re someone who normally doesn’t self-reflect, you might be stumped by these questions. However, this is perfectly normal. I remember when I was in elementary school, the teacher asked us how we would describe ourselves. The question got me a bit stumped, because I had never thought much about it. It took me some time to find some meaningful adjectives to describe myself, but even then they didn’t seem right. That was one of the starting points of my self-exploration journey…whether I knew it or not. Somewhere along the way, I became a big fan of introspection, enjoying the process of self-reflecting and contemplating questions.
Today, I believe questions are a vital key to self-awareness and personal growth. In my one on one coaching sessions, as well as with groups, and audiences, I enable my clients and attendees to discover the answers to their goals/questions by asking them the right questions. It would be easy if I just tell my coachees what they “should” do and what they “should not” do. But that’s not the point. It’s about empowering others to discover themselves through asking the right guiding questions, catered to their situation and their persona. The right questions will help them untangle the blockages in them and connect with their inner self – their powerful authentic self!
It doesn’t matter if you get stumped in the beginning, or if you don’t know the answers to the questions at first. Our hearts and minds are boundless. Just because you don’t get an answer immediately, it doesn’t mean there are no answers. The answers are there – for all questions and answers lie with each one of us- it’s just that your mind is too foggy since you’ve not consulted it from a heart-space before. The more you ask, the clearer your mind will be, and the more ready you’ll be to receive the answers.
I’ve come up with a set of important questions for your self-reflection. Some are questions which I ask my one on one clients, groups and audiences alike to uncover the real them. These questions will help you focus on what’s important to you, as well as what you want. They are not meant to be answered all at one shot – they are to be thought over again and again, as part of your growth journey. I have picked out three specific questions to reflect on. You may want to bookmark them and check back each day…for 10 minutes or so…as checking-in with your self regularly will produce more clarity, confidence and commitment to achieving the life you desire in this Magnificent New Year 2013!
Once again…Ask yourself:
Who am I?
What do I want?
Do I Love myself?
Bonus question…What am I going to do differently now that I have read this article?
Remember, there is no one final answer. It’s a continuous discovery process. Your answers to the questions today will be different from your answers one month, three months, six months, and one year down the road.
In the meantime, here’s to creating a healthy, joy-filled, peace-filled, magnificent, and successful new year in 2013!
To Our Health, Wealth & Empowerment Together!
With Love & Blessings!
“There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire.”
-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself
Rhonda M. Farrah, MA, DRWA
The Wellness Institute International
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