Back To School – Safer Sex 101

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Back To School - Safer Sex 101 by Dr. Ava Cadell

We all need to know about safer sex practices. And, safer sex can be very sexy and fun. Of course the only kind of “safe sex” is abstinence……but some people are unclear about the risks linked to unprotected oral sex and sexual intercourse.

Unprotected oral sex carries less risk for the transmission of STD’s than unprotected intercourse or anal sex does, but it’s still possible to contract herpes, genital warts, gonorrhea, syphilis, crabs lice, hepatitis, HIV or AIDS through oral sex.

The best advice is to use safer sex supplies until you and your lover are in a monogamous relationship.

Safer Sex Supplies Include:

Include, dental dams to cover the vulva, FDA approved condoms, latex gloves or finger cots for internal finger play and sanitary lubricants to prevent any abrasions. If you love yourself, always remember to protect yourself.

Here’s a safer sex menu to stimulate your sexual appetite.

Safer Sex Activities:

§       Cuddling and caressing

§       Dry kissing

§       Undressing

§       Phone sex

§       Watching or reading erotica

§       Masturbation

§       Manual stimulation

§       Oral sex with a condom or rubber dam

§       Sex toys

§       Intercourse with a condom

Unsafe Sex:

§       French kissing in the presence of open sores or cuts

§       Manual stimulation in the presence of open sores or cuts

§       Oral sex without a barrier

§       Sharing unclean sex toys

§       Sucking the breasts of a lactating woman

§       Vaginal or anal intercourse without an FDA approved condom

Incorporate as many of the safer-sex activities as you can into your next lovemaking encounter.


It is essential to have lubricants at the ready, before you need them. Without lubrication, a woman can become sore and a man can develop abrasions on his penis. Lubricants can add to the sensuality and the comfort of lovemaking, and there are many to choose from.


There are many kinds of condoms including flavored, latex, polyurethane, extra-large, snug fitting, extra-sensitive, and condoms with nubs and stimulators. If your lover gives you a hard time about wearing a condom, here are some good reasons why you need to use one.


Him: I don’t think condoms are romantic.
Her: Just let me show you how romantic condoms can be.
Him: You don’t trust me, do you?
Her: It’s not a matter of trust; it’s a matter of health.
Him: I don’t like to use condoms.
Her: I don’t have sex without them.
Him: I haven’t had sex with anyone in years so I know I’m clean.
Her: Thanks for being so honest, but let’s use one anyway.
Him: I can’t feel anything when i wear a condom.
Her: Let me provide you with some extra stimulation.
Him: I know I’ll lose my erection by the time I get it on.
Her: Here, let me put it on for you with my mouth.
Him: I’m only going to use a condom this once.
Her: Once is all it takes.
Him: Sorry, I don’t have one.
Her: That’s ok. I do.
Him: How come you have condoms on you? Did you plan to have sex with me?
Her: I made sure I had some because I really care about you.
Him: Forget it. I’m not going to use a condom.
Her: Fine. Then let’s not have sex until we can work out our differences.


What you need to know about STD’s


Type Virus/ Bacteria Symptoms Curable? Treatment
Genital Herpes Virus Burning sensation in genitals, low back pain, pain when urinating, flu-like symptoms, small red bumps may appear around genitals, some show no symptoms No Medications prescribed by your doctor, such as Valtrex™
Gonorrhea Bacteria Women: strong smelling vaginal discharge, may be thin & watery or thick & yellow/green, irritation or discharge from the anus, abnormal vaginal bleeding, possibly some low abdominal or pelvic tenderness, pain or a burning sensation when passing urine, low abdominal pain sometimes with nausea

Men: white, yellow or green thick discharge from the tip of the penis, inflammation of the testicles & prostate gland, irritation or discharge from the anus, urethral itch & pain or burning sensation when passing urine

Yes Antibiotics (Similar to antibiotics used for Chlamydia)
Chlamydia Bacteria Women: an unusual vaginal discharge, pain or a burning sensation when passing urine, bleeding between periods, pain during sex or bleeding after sex, low abdominal pain sometimes with nausea

Men: white/cloudy, watery discharge from the tip of the penis, pain or a burning sensation when passing urine, testicular pain and/or swelling

Yes Antibiotics (those similar to gonorrhea). Such as,Doxycycline
Syphilis Bacteria Painless sores or open ulcers may appear on the anus, vagina, penis, or inside the mouth, and occasionally on other parts of the body. During the second stage (roughly three weeks to three months after the first symptoms appear), an infected person may experience flu-like symptoms and possibly hair loss or a rash on the soles and palms — and in some cases all over the body. There are also latent phases of syphilis infection during which symptoms are absent. Yes Antibiotics. However, can be extremely dangerous if left untreated
HIV/AIDS Virus Most symptoms of AIDS are not caused directly by HIV, but by an infection or other condition brought on by a weakened immune system. These include severe weight loss, fever, headache, night sweats, fatigue, severe diarrhea, shortness of breath, and difficulty swallowing. The symptoms tend to last for weeks or months at a time and do not go away without treatment No Doctors can prescribe an array of medications (commonly known as a “cocktail”) to preserve life, however, there is no cure.
HPV (Genital Warts) Virus Can cause cervical cancer, visible warts in and around the genitals, may look like miniature cauliflower florets, some show no symptoms No Warts can be removed by a physician, however, they will always return


For more information about these common STDs visit

Facts About STD

  • 65 million of people living in the US with STD
  • 15 million of new STD cases each year
  • 2/3 of all STD’s accrues in people 25 yrs of age or younger
  • 1 in 4 new STD’s accrues in teenagers
  • Cervical cancer in women is linked to HPV
  • Doctors are required to report newly diagnosed cases of gonorrhea, syphilis, Chlamydia and hepatitis B to state health departments and the CDC
  • 1 in 4 Americans have genital herpes, 80% of those with herpes are unaware they have it
  • At least 1 in 4 Americans will contract an STD at some point in their lives
  • 15% of all infertile American women are infertile because of tubal damage caused by untreated STD
  • 12% of all infertile American men are infertile because of inflammation of the testicles and sterility caused by untreated STD

Source: Sexually Transmitted Disease Guide – Online Version

STI Resource Center Hotline

ASHA’s STI Resource Center Hotline

The STI Resource Center Hotline is a program of the American Social Health Association (ASHA) that provides information, materials and referrals to anyone concerned about sexually transmitted infections (STI). Health Communication Specialists are on staff to answer STI questions on such topics as transmission, risk reduction, prevention, testing and treatment. The service receives more than 180,000 calls a year and is not supported by state or federal funds, but by donations from foundations, corporations and individuals such as yourself.